Does that make me greedy?

I want stuff. I think it is okay to want stuff. There are things I want to be, to do, and to have. Jack Canfield told me it was okay. No, more than okay, vitally important to my self-realization and happiness.

Of course, Wayne Dyer told me that 'intending' something is better than 'wanting' but that is for another day. Let's stick with Jack.

In The Success Principles, Jack recommends making a list of 30 Things I Want To Do, 30 Things I Want to Be, and 30 Things I Want To Have (fyi, Jack loves long lists).

So, the other night, I sat down with my beloved and told him he was going to make a want list. For 15 minutes he was going to complete the sentence, 'I want...' and I was going to write down the answers. Y'see, I have this theory that he is totally disconnected from his preferences, wishes, hopes, and wants, and that is why he cannot seem to dream. We are working on this.

Nevertheless, despite some quiet moments of reflection, 15 minutes later I had 64 of his 'wants'. Not too shabby.

Then I asked him what he thought of it. "Apparently I want a lot of stuff," he replied.

"Indeed," I ventured. Indeed is a great academic word.

"I guess I'm pretty greedy," he continued, looking away from me, waiting for the judgment.

"AHA!" I exclaimed in triumph, much to his confusion, "I guess you had better look at that."

"What?" His confusion now growing, I moved in for the kill. (Yes, you may pity the poor man, having a coach for a girlfriend.)

"How exactly are we supposed to become financially free, accomplish our dreams, and be super-duper happy if you think you are bad and greedy for wanting things? Huh? Huh?" I smiled, possibly to soften the reprimand, but also because I live for this moment.

"Oh," he responded. He hates it when I catch him on stuff like this. "Hmm..."

"That's it! You are totally not allowed to beat yourself up like this. We are getting out the elastic."

"I am fully opposed to the elastic. I want you to know that." He was pouting now, knowing that I was right and his fate was sealed.

Two days later, his welty wrist is slowly getting better and his inner critic is taking a breather. But more about the elastic later.